Checking out your ex girlfriend's profile.

PlatypusThatMeows · 6 months

Easiest way to ruin a day. Doing this.

Batman_for_President · 6 months

Old school mates profiles, "Wow these people have aged poorly, excellent."

hypoid77 · 6 months

This thread is like group therapy

iaccidentlytheworld · 6 months

I immediately regret her decision to break up with me.

Grenache · 6 months

Did this last night... Fucking idiot!

Fr4t · 6 months

Facebook and stuff is poison for your soul after a breakup...

conkore · 6 months

Years without dating > 1.5 yrs.
Time since last thought about ex < 1 day
FML

Deluxx00 · 6 months

Seeing song lyrics - were those for me?

biggmclargehuge · 6 months

relevant: http://i.imgur.com/M3qrL.jpg

Badgers_ · 6 months

"Hrm. Haven't seen her in awhile. Better check on it."

In a relationship with [douchebag] Profile picture kissing [douchebag]

/okay

makesureimjewish · 6 months

This is extremely difficult because when I use the search feature on facebook, anything remotely close to her name leads me to back to her profile since her profile was the most visited page before. t.t

RyanBradford · 6 months

Why do so many people remain friends on facebook after a breakup?

cuddi · 6 months

My ex got the girl he cheated on me pregnant, and then married her. I kinda feel like I dodged a bullet.

Phooto · 6 months

I swear, Facebook knew I used to be her boyfriend. She now has a new boyfriend and every time I log in the FIRST picture on my newsfeed is a picture of her and her new boyfriend.

Facebook: "STARE AT IT BITCH!" Me: "okay:/"

Deleted her.

Krimh · 6 months

Checking out my ex-girlfriend's profile

heystove · 6 months

Relevant

[deleted] · 6 months

Block her Facebook. Delete her number. HIT THE FUCKING GYM!

Chaings · 6 months

Checking out an ex's profile is bad idea. Checking out the profile of a current partner's ex? Worse idea.

Stage 1. Realized she's not cuter than me.
Stage 2. Noticed that she's now with someone who looks exactly like my boyfriend.
Stage 3. Started imagining scenarios where she tries to get said boyfriend back ... and succeeds.

Never again. Welcome to my block list, beyotch.

MAYOROFMARY · 6 months

Deactivated tha book

Win_Or_Lose_Or_Draw · 6 months

Thank Cthulhu for "Unsubscribe from _____".

permalink · 6 months

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GarryShandling · 6 months

Since I was in a rut a few days ago, with my ex on my mind (I too had a dream about her yesterday), allow me to offer you this advice:

Be confident. Ignore her, forget what happened, and move on. I know this sounds generic (I refused to believe this stupid advice actually worked), but you know what? It does.

If you can give yourself confidence, mixed together with an attitude of "I don't give a shit" and care only about yourself and what betters you (not saying to be selfish, but you get the idea), you'll feel an intense ease off your chest. Suddenly, you won't care about who she is with - you'll only care about who is with you. I know, it sounds weird, but after I conditioned myself into this positive mindset, not only did I feel happy, but I also, strangely enough, felt happy for my ex and her current boyfriend, and wished them the best of luck in my head. Then I talked to a girl and essentially set up a date on Monday with her. All of this after I realized what I needed in my life to tackle these silly issues of living in the past.

I have more than one issue with Facebook profile's, and I deleted the whole thing. All of my real friends are on my phone anyways. Now I'm not saying any of you should do that, but if your ex is bothering you, and you know the past is over with, why not just delete her and move on? If they don't care about the past, why should you?

Perhaps I'm talking to myself and a very narrow range of users here, or maybe I'm talking to all of you. My point is is that if you want to forget her, you have to remove yourself from her. Deleting my Facebook was hard to do, as it was not only an addiction, but an important networking tool to plug all of my film projects. Yet I felt much better when I deactivated my account - I felt freedom from the ruts I put myself in because of what I saw on people's profiles, and I've had little to no temptation to return back to it.

Taking the advice of another redditor, I suggest you all hit up /r/seduction and give it a read to better your self-esteem and to move on to different, and most likely, better women. And if you have the time, read this article from Cracked about how life will just get better for you. I can't quite say how these links will help all of you, but I was in the same boat, and it certainly helped me. I feel that, after posting and asking for advice, it was time I give back to you folks.

One last thing: try not to browse /r/ForeverAlone. It may be counterproductive and go against the confidence you're trying to build. Instead, check out this extremely helpful and motivational AdviceAnimal picture that's gotten me through these times. I hope all of what I said is of use to at least some of you.

EDIT - I want to say thank you to Perfectlyfrank27 for buying me a month of reddit gold. She did it because she felt my comment here was "good advice". I'm glad what I said has seemingly worked for one person already.

tl;dr - If your ex doesn't care about the past, then why should you?

Jankinator · 6 months

My New Year's resolution was to not go on my ex's profile again. I also hid her from my news feed. It's not a perfect solution, but it's a lot better.

stonedotjimmy · 6 months

thanks for the motivation to not check her profile

grizz281 · 6 months

block feature. abooyah

frankenboobehs · 6 months

Checked out my ex's facebook a few days ago. He got married. asshole.

social_drinker · 6 months

The same happens when I check my current girlfriends profile. LDR's suck, trust disappears quite quickly for some reason.

clouds31 · 6 months

Having an abusive ex, I don't regret it at all.

FREEEEEEEDOOOOOOOM.

radiomorning · 6 months

Literally just did this. The most masochistic thing possible, yet. can't. resist.

thefortitude · 6 months

I know we're 300 comments into this submission, but to everyone in this thread who is dealing with an unrequited love or crush for years and years, I have a question.

Do you actually want to move on? Because if you do, I have some advice. Read on for that. But I wonder if a lot of you would want or need it....

In a lot of ways a serious and important infatuation can be a beacon of hope, an ever-present reminder of something greater to aspire to achieve. An idol to worship and treat with reverence. After a certain point (a year? less? more?), the person who is the object of your infatuation no longer remains a person, but rather a giant Statue. Imposing, inspiring, and static.

At a certain point you are no longer in love with a person, but with an IDEA of a person.

This distinction is crucial and also scary. Love and belief in ideas shape our world, and some of the best AND worst things ever done were in the name of an idea. Religion, politics, all of that, they're all removed from reality replaced with a larger over-riding IDEA that will never actually be achieved.

Same thing with a love and infatuation. After a certain point, the person you are in love with will never have the ability to match your expectations and imagery of what you build them up to be. Because the person you are in love with is...drumroll...human. They are human with their own qualities and their own faults. Many faults even, but you do not see them because you are not close to them. And faults that you will actually never see because you idealize.

This is not fair to them or you. Long-term unrequited love is like a parasite that sits on your brain. It prevents growth and development in that part of the brain while constantly feeding you with a steady stream of both pleasure and pain. Pleasure from being in that person's company. Pain from the realization that you are not together. Etc. But it is a leach. And it makes you think that you do NOT want to get rid of it.

-----------------------------INTERMISSION-----------

Now, let's say, you DO want to be able to get over your infatuation/crush/attraction/longing/unrequitedlove. Well, there are two options.

OPTION 1:, achieve it. LOLZ, right? Well, it's possible. Remove yourself from the person, work on your self-image, self-confidence, achieve self-respect, and re-enter the person's life, and most likely if you'd had taken an actual SERIOUS self-assessment and worked on self-improvement, you would've changed a lot more than she has. Impressing her that way is a great first step. Then, you act like you have a clean slate. Use your newfound confidence, pursue her, and get her. Easier said than done, I know. I didn't say it would be easy. But here's the thing, I'm not talking about going away for a month, pumping some weights once or twice and trimming your nose hair. I'm talking about a serious fundamental re-evaluation of who you are as a person, and what you have to offer to other people. Learn new skills. Find out what you can do that intrigues and attracts other people (men AND women). If you can't think of anything, learn something. And try out your new chops on other women. If you expect to catch a whale, you gotta learn how to catch a trout.

Okay, OPTION 2: Option 2 is a lot like Option 1. Except at the end, you DON'T go after the object of your desire. Again, LOLZ, right? What? WTF? Wasn't that the whole point? Well, yes, yes it was. But an interesting thing may, and a lot of times WILL happen when you take the time to put some time and space between yourself and a person you are in love with...you may find yourself slowly getting over them. Not only that, but going after OTHER people will often make that desire weaker as well, as you realize that all-important point that your friends and family have been telling you for years but you just could not figure out until you saw it for yourself: "Holy shit, there are other people that are right for me!" "There are other people that can make me happy." "There are other people I can love".

To truly win a person that you've had an unrequited crush on for longer than a reasonable amount of time, you need to first move on from them and re-discover them as a person, not as a symbol. And in the course of this process, you just may discover that you no longer want this person. -npinguy.

MrVario · 6 months

I blocked the bitch. Instantly. Only thing I ever want to see posted about her is her obituary.

jakestrictor · 6 months

And the common thought "What the heck was I thinking?".

fore-skinjob · 6 months

I haven't looked at my ex's new online dating profile for 2.5 months now. Flex

Kemuel · 6 months

Been feeling like crap since I did this yesterday. Great reading all the comments here, starting to feel vaguely human again.

SeaBass123 · 6 months

My advice, gents? Be a boss and make it her loss. May be tough, but I'm only four months out of a breakup with the first girl I really loved and I've lost a ton of weight and my grades have shot up (college sophomore, I know I'm a youngin')

Of course I miss her, but don't let it take away from your swagger, gents.

N00t · 6 months

Upvote, because I definitely just did this.

azwethinkweizm · 6 months

Don't chase 'em, replace 'em.

guppygirl · 6 months

It's funny because my ex looks like Will Ferrell.

FordSVT1 · 6 months

I found out through Facebook that my high school girlfriend ended up marrying my best friend. They both moved away to the same city, met "again", and got married. I'd lost track of them both over the years, but even a decade after high school it felt like I got kicked in the chest for about an hour. The best part was that it was my best friend who convinced my to dump her before the summer of graduation.

They got divorced about a year ago. I'm a bit ashamed to admit that I was happy about it. They didn't have kids, so not that ashamed.

manofinaction · 6 months

bingo.

thelfj · 6 months

my ex got bigger and has less friends since we broke up... think I'm good.

bquade · 6 months

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DecimusValorum · 6 months

I just check to see how FAT she has become!

gnarlysaurus · 6 months

I look great, she gained weight. Fuck yeah.

chernickov · 6 months

You're checking out my ex-girlfriend's profile?

JSLEnterprises · 6 months

I just checked out my ex's profile... it made me happy, she got fat in the past 2 years. lol

seventeenfrogs · 6 months

It would be nice if Facebook would stop fucking putting her on the suggested friends list.

SlomTick · 6 months

For me, it usually involves the phrase: "That cannot be unseen, and I am so glad I am not with that person anymore!"

StuR · 6 months

I blocked my ex but we still are both tagged in 200+ photos and there is no easy way of deleting/untagging without seeing her profile pic. I get real bad anxiety just going on fb now just on the off chance I'll stumble across her.

thinburrito · 6 months

He's dating another girl and got a great job. sigh

Drewsta1987 · 6 months

Hell, I split with my ex 4 years ago and I still look at her profile picture every now and then thinking what the hell did I do. I have blocked her as a friend because it was too tempting to trawl through her pics, so all I can see is her profile pic, yet I still cant help myself from going and looking.

I know, it's unhealthy.

Aiconic · 6 months

Redditors complain they're forever alone. Half of them are hung up on ex gf's. Move on, please.

xpdx · 6 months

Jesus guys. Don't put the pussy on a pedestal! More than half the population of the planet has a vagina, I'm sure you can find another one that you like. It's not like there is a pussy shortage or anything.

Except maybe in China...

Cheezits123 · 6 months

Oh cruel world! I don't check her fb profile ever, yet why do you have to place her in areas where I visit!

Mr_MojoRising · 6 months

Jumping into a bears den: a much better decision.

D3FEATER · 6 months

hahaha I just did this last night. Immediately regretted the decision.

mtfw · 6 months

Just try to not do it drunk or you'll wind up messaging them and then calling them. I don't remember that phone call at all from last night, but my phone says it lasted 10 minutes. Fuck.

itchy_anus · 6 months

The worst is straight out of highschool, my highschool sweetheart and I grew apart and next thing I know shes married with 2 kids and their pics look like something out of the brady bunch, at first Im thinking aww good for her, selfish bitch, I bet they have so many problems. :(

BurgerBoner · 6 months

I always block them to avoid this.

TheDataWhore · 6 months

Last time I looked I cheered to myself for dodging a bullet.

prodikl · 6 months

I block all my exes. And I tell them that I'm going to do that. And I tell them that I'm doing it to prevent this. And things are nice.

notjawn · 6 months

Man this hit home all too hard. It took me weeks after a bad break up to get over it because I just felt compelled to look at her profile. Just don't do it man.

nerdjam45 · 6 months

oh god the hurt!

DRUNK_and_Patriotic · 6 months

and every time you can't seem to leave fast enough

ffffuuuuManChu · 6 months

I check out my ex wife's profile quite often. She left me btw. The first half year, all her statuses were all about how awesome everything was. Now though, she's one of those people who post every N hours to tell everyone what kind of beverage she's having.

Meanwhile, I've got a date on Thursday (first date in 17 years) and I'm not even going to brag about it on Facebook.

tl;dr: Things get better.

BrutalJones · 6 months

Broke up with a girl I dated for 9 years about a year ago. Checked out her profile yesterday.

She got fat. I've lost 20 lbs. I win.

First-Tiger · 6 months

http://pbfcomics.com/252/

cantis · 6 months

Broke up with a girl I dated for 2 years about 4-5 months ago. My only regret: not doing it sooner.

funny

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